SEVENTH SEAL LIBRARY

God's Truth Not Smooth Words

Pop Goes the Balloon ~~ of LOVE

Pop Goes the Balloon! ~~ of LOVE

©copyright 2007 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.

If we stretch a rubber band far enough, it breaks, then uselessly and painfully snaps back into our face or the face of another; or, if we put too much hot air into a balloon, it pops and shrivels to a wrinkled, useless mess of thin rubber no longer resembling its former glory, never again to smoothly float heavenward. These analogies applied to the times we live in should cause us to consider how we over use the word LOVE: abused until it now has no significant meaning. 

The word “love” is used every day to convey a tremendous number of likes and desires; none of which relate to love as God defines it: “I love . . .  my life; limousines; Armani clothes; the color purple; Leonardo D’Caprio; acting; horror movies; rock ‘n roll; Tim McGraw; to sing and dance; Mexican food; custom houses; fancy décor; diamonds; Madonna; my job; video games; money; I would love to do .  . . or love to have .  . . or love to be . . . or love to go to . . .” The list goes on and, somewhere in this unholy mix, love for spouse or child or God and Christ might be expressed on rare occasions. As Jesus said, “If you love your life and this world more than me, you are not worthy of me.” 

Love spoken, as above, seems to come from flattering lips instead of a heart reflecting God’s love IN BEHAVIOUR. If we never again spoke or wrote the word love, all would know and recognize our love, or lack thereof, by the things we do for or against self and others. God and Christ said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If we are out of control and our behaviour is not Christ-like, we do not love self or mankind. It is that simple. 

Is it any wonder our young, and even most adults, have no concept of what truly is love, would not recognize true love if it bit them? We all are or have been guilty of blowing up love’s balloon until it pops then deflates into a totally ineffectual, meaningless word. Many months ago the Holy Spirit pointed out the abuse of love’s true meaning, then directed that the findings be shared with others as a Sabbath lesson for the Lord’s Day. 

In misusing and abusing the true, heartfelt use of this word, we have conditioned our minds to accept a reduction of its meaning to nothing more than an indifferent “like” for something or someone; thus, our words and behaviour convey this flawed definition to other people’s minds as well as the minds of our children. Our subconscious brain affects and controls exhibited behaviour in all things, and it does so based on words we either think or speak or have heard: both negative and positive. 

We have blown up the concept of love until, today, it has popped into only the act of sex; and, when this wanes in a relationship, as it was meant to do as a godly form of birth control, a couple assumes they no longer love each another. So, they decide it is time to divorce then seek a new love interest; not necessarily in that order. Therefore, adultery reigns supreme in this nation, justified by Christian denominations with a variety of unjustified excuses in twisting God’s Word: “There is a way that seems right to a man but it is the way to destruction.” 

This nation is known globally for its immorality flamed by fornication and adultery. So, it comes as no surprise that the United States has the highest divorce rate than any other country. Why? Because according to Christ, in Matthew 24:12, “Sin abounds, the love of many has become cold [indifferent].” Certainly the majority are unconcerned, despite profuse professions of love, inasmuch as, Christ explained in John 5:40, “The love of God is not in you.” If the love of God is not in a person, then he or she is marked for a pit of fire and brimstone; unless he or she chooses to repent. It is this simple. 

We have only to look to God for examples demonstrating love; to begin, I John 4:16 states, “God IS love.” In fact, the entire Bible speaks of God’s loving, merciful and righteous character; love and mercy reflected in His Royal Law of Love thus His righteous and just nature reflected in His Ten Statutes of Life; of which, according to God and Christ, love and righteousness and justice also must become our own character traits. Such a personality, if you will, has nothing to do with either this world’s things or man’s wicked inventions and vile behaviours: it has everything to do with our relationship with God as well as mankind. God’s love is again cited in Romans 5:5,8; II Corinthians 13:11,14; and I John 3:16

God IS Love; however, He further defines His love in Galatians 5:22-26 as:

1. joy;

2. peace;

3. longsuffering, which is patience;

 

4. gentleness;

 

5. goodness;

 

6. faith;

 

7. meekness;

 

8. temperance, which is self-control. 

 

Additionally, we are shown love is:

1) to speak Truth, Ephesians 4:15, which Truth Psalm 119:142,151 states is God’s Ten Commandments;

2) to sacrifice our flesh and spirit being to God, Ephesians 5:2, as Christ gave Himself for us;

3) to follow after righteousness (God’s Ten Precepts), godliness and gentleness by faith and love with longsuffering patience, I Timothy 6:10; and,

4) to have no fear, for perfect love casts out fear, I John 4:18; and,

 

5) to obey God’s Commandments, I John 5:3-5 and II John v. 6

 

In addition to God’s hatred of wickedness mentioned in Zechariah 8:17 and Proverbs 8:13 plus hatred of man’s wicked inventions, things, in II Chronicles 26:15-16; Psalm 99:8; 106:29,39; Proverbs 8:12; Ecclesiastes 7:29; and Romans 1:28-32; God’s Word further cites what is NOT LOVE: 

 

1) love of money, I Timothy 6:10-11;

2) loving the world and its things, I John 2:15-17;

3) love by word instead of by deed, I John 3:18;

4) and a lack of love violates God’s Law, I John 3:4-11, the same Law written by God’s own finger in the beginning, cited in Exodus 20:3-17 and Deuteronomy 5:7-14,16-21

 

True love has no heart for disobeying even one of those righteous, liberating Statutes; but, feigned love will pick and choose which to disobey and justify same by twisting God’s Word to suit one’s lifestyle: partial obedience according to convenience and a desire to fit into society, instead of total obedience from an all-consuming love that sets us apart from society and the world. 

 

The vast majority of professing Christians easily say God is Love but truly do not know or understand all the ins and outs of how He exhibits love; the same exhibition we are instructed to show the world: the operative word being “show, don’t tell.” God’s Love is shown, not only in the beautiful world He created for us or the fact His Son loved us so much that He willingly died a horrible death, so our past sins might be forgiven; but, God also revealed His love when He set out exactly and plainly what He expects of us, showed us how to do it by His Son’s living example; then, God told us exactly what the rewards would be IF we obey or disobey: life or death. Now, how fair is that? FAIR! 

 

More importantly, God shows His love by correcting and/or punishing His children in the here and now, when or if we disobey: better now than in the end; for while the wicked and filthy are not punished now, they will be utterly destroyed in the end for their lack of repentence. 

 

God IS the perfect parent, one every parent should copy yet so few do. Many parents today let others raise their children— schools, television, video games, the Internet, daycare and so forth— then complain when their child goes astray. These parents fail to teach, train and guide their kids from the cradle up; worse, many parents fail to discipline when necessary. 

 

Such parents “show” a lack of true love for their kids, then they wonder why that son or daughter one day shouts, “You don’t love me!” of “I hate you!” When children act out, are unruly, out of control, even destructive and easily lie, it is a child’s way of demonstrating a silent scream: “Love me enough to make me do what I’m supposed to do, because I don’t know what to do!” Thus, God our Father disciplines us when we are unruly, out of control, disobedient. 

 

God IS Love. He loves us so much that, when He corrects and/or punishes, our tears do not deter Him; and, He advises that we not be deterred by our kids’ tears. If only parents realized that, by withholding teaching and training and guidance as well as corrective punishment, they are enabling and even encouraging worse behaviour in the child. 

 

A child who is out of control clearly reflects parents who are out of control: it is as if they wear on their backs, for the whole world to see and all do see, a huge red neon sign saying, “I’M OUT OF CONTROL.” People and parents such as these are often called “control freaks,” because they attempt to control petty issues in everything and everyone around them, except self and their children. In their mind, sadly, they think this means they are in control. God deems them out of control. 

 

We are told in II Corinthians 2:8 and 8:8,24 to confirm and to prove, which is to provide evidence of, our love for God, Christ, and our fellow humans. Then, II Corinthians 5:14 explains that, when we truly love, we do not live for ourselves; rather, we live for God, Christ, spouses and children, and for serving our brethren. In not living for self, we make better witnesses for God, better husbands and wives, and become much better parents. Bear in mind: it is NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT and A BETTER CHRISTIAN. It is a matter of life and death, theirs and ours. 

 

I John 2:3, 3:22-24, and 5:2-3 tell us how to confirm, prove and provide evidence of our love: obeying God’s Precepts is the evidence that reveals we both know as well as love God, Christ and mankind. Revelation 12:17, 14:12, and 22:14 then confirm that the evidence we must present, to both God and mankind, is also the keys that open to us the gates of heaven thus giving us access to God’s tree of life therein. 

 

Once becoming aware of how we humans have destroyed the true meaning of love, we then should choose to closely monitor when and how we use this very important word: a word so vital that it literally means everlasting life or eternal death. We should no longer use it carelessly, using it only when we MEAN love in its truest sense, LOVE by God’s definition and by His standard that we demonstrate His character. 

 

Otherwise, we LIKE many things and people but should not covet them. Then, when we say we love God or Christ or all people, there are no gray clouds; veils that cause others to doubt or question our sincerity; for our total behaviour should match what we say and write, IF our expression of love is in Truth. This is to love even those who sin against us: love the sinner, hate the sin. This is God’s way. 

 

Everyone is urged to analyze and monitor their use of this awesome word spelled L—O—V—E; a word possessed of incredible power. Choose to eliminate its use, except where love really should apply. Confirm and prove your love first, by giving evidence of it to God and Christ, according to the evidence God requires by our behaviour; and thereby, the evidence of our love for mankind. Then we can know and feel what is truly love: how it looks and acts and speaks. 

 

As pointed out in the Sabbath lesson of 20 January 2007, “Talk the Walk, Walk the Talk.” Let the world see, without doubt, that you mean exactly what you speak and/or write; for love speaks only Truth, God’s Truth, and acts only in Truth. 

 

Love is gentle and patient; love does not beat around the bush and never lies or is deceitful in any manner; love paints our kettle as black as it is, then it is up to us to clean up the mess we have made of our lives; love heals and saves our spirit being within; and most of all, love within us has the power to heal and save others whom God has called: the wayward sinner, out of control children and their enabling, out of control parents. 

 

~~end Article

  

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5 February 2007 - Posted by | Bible, Bible Related Articles, Bible Study, Christ, Christian, Christianity, Church, Escatology, Faith, Give, Giving, God, Helpful Hints, Holy Spirit, Husband, Husbands, Jehovah, Jesus, Love, Mothers, Parenting, Religion, Self Help, Spiritual, Spiritual Study, Theology, Truth, Wives

3 Comments »

  1. yes love is gentle and kind, another good article

    Comment by not-son-of-perdition | 30 March 2007 | Reply

  2. Ah, thank you, Cumby, for such an encouraging and wise review. The question you pose is perfect; alas, far too many parents want to feel good thus act in a manner that says, “I care more about being loved than loving my child enough to really parent.” Of course, then there are those parents who simply don’t want to parent. Why they had children I’ll never know.

    Our Father is the perfect parent and He certainly does not withhold the rod when we need it: rather the rod than our eternal death.

    Good to see you again! 🙂

    Much love in Christ,
    BonnieQ

    Comment by bonnieq | 6 February 2007 | Reply

  3. “True love has no heart for disobeying even one of those righteous, liberating Statutes”

    You nailed it! Love is demonstrated by obedience as modeled by Christ on the cross.

    The easiest part of being a parent is lavishing our children with all they want. It feels good. The hard part is correcting them because it feels awful. The question is: do we want to feel good about ourselves or be good parents?

    Comment by cumby | 6 February 2007 | Reply


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