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Extra Oil Update 30: Barely News Answers Prayers

Earth IS reeling to and fro like a drunkard: Barely News, Nature, Ft. Hood, Army, Quran, Muslims, Bible, God, Christ, Prayer Request, Answers Prayers  

 Prophecy’s Extra Oil Update 30: Barely News Answers Prayers
©copyright 2009 Bonita M Quesinberry

News 11/07-11/10: 3.5 days in “terrors of end days,” Terrors continue all over but TSaS is not giving news today for a much needed physical/emotional break; Update Hurricane Ida, downgraded to a tropical storm, winds 70mph hit Louisiana, Alabama, Florida’s Panhandle, Ida killed 91 w/60 missing in El Salvador’s massive rains causing floods and mudslides; Earthquake hits Indonesia on 11/08, 1 death/many injuries reported;

It is getting very difficult to get accurate news, especially about death/injury tolls from both natural catastrophic events and wars, reports now using terms like “dozens” or “scores” or “a lot” but giving no figures or only low end numbers—URGENT watch clouds, pray for victims’ families all over the world, “pray unceasing” . . .

MESSAGE from BonnieQ: Tues 11/10—I watched the memorial for our 13 fallen heroes of Ft. Hood, Texas, today, the eve of Veterans’ Day; a very moving ceremony filled with many uplifting words from President Obama, the base chaplain, singing “Amazing Grace,” roll call and more. As thoughts of God’s Word crossed my mind, one speaker quoted Isaiah, “Who shall go for us? And, one stood and said, ‘Take me, I will go.'” This phrase was actually Christ offering himself for humanity, recited to reflect this nation’s soldiers’ vow during peacetime and in wars on foreign soils.

I’ve been hearing a common, angrily delivered charge since November 5th, “The moment I heard about the shooting I knew it was a Muslim! They shouldn’t be allowed in our military.” Others have said, “I’ve read the Quran and their belief to kill all infidels is right there!” Really? Before jumping to that conclusion and, possibly doing something stupid, please read on in the spirit and mind of Christ.

CNN interviewed several of Islam’s clerics, each of whom stated that Muslim extremists misinterpret Islam’s Quran, sadly believing it is their duty to kill all the worlds’ “infidels.” I urge God’s people and Christ’s sheep not to judge the whole of Islam by the few Muslim extremists, to refrain from and attempt to prevent others from issuing backlashes to innocent US Muslims, many of whom successfully and honorably serve in our military forces today, vowing their allegiance and love for the United States.

I am reminded of the Dark Ages, a time when millions where killed by Papal Rome for their refusal to embrace its church and dogma. I am reminded of the US, before it became a nation; a time when Sabbatarians were beaten in their own homes, jailed and even hanged for violating Sunday; a day clearly not sanctified by God or Christ. Look at the many misinterpretations of the Holy Bible then and the vast majority who do so today, much to their own demise.

I’ve heard many statements based on misinterpretations: “It’s full of wars and killings” and “It’s a book full of sex, so what’s wrong with enjoying a natural inclination in whatsoever way we choose” and “It’s full of kings with multiple wives” and “It’s all about love, nothing more; so homosexuality is acceptable because it’s all about love!” Indeed, we serve a God of love; but to twist His Word is to bring damnation down upon all those who do these blasphemous acts of disobedience. Truly serving God and following in His Son’s footsteps is to do so in love without judgment or condemnation, to embrace all in loving understanding: whether it is an understanding of their obedience or an understanding that this world is all they will have for their disobedience. We are here to warn of noncompliance with God’s Truth and to pray for the lost, the lukewarm and cold.

The comments and erroneous beliefs continue on and have been responsible for the rise of religions we easily could name to support each misinterpretation: Satan’s twist on God’s Word. Thus, the same can be said about the Bible that today is being said about the Quran. Even the Bible refers to unbelievers as “infidels.” So, should we go out and “kill all the infidels?” No!

Judgment and vengeance is God’s and God’s alone. We are to preach and teach God’s Truth, the love of God and His Christ with a message of peace and hope; and, if faced with death for our peaceful beliefs, we should spread our arms wide and say, “Take your best shot; for I guarantee that God will raise me up again.”

THIS is what Jesus did for us, both in His walk, His obedience to and teaching of God’s Truth, and when He spread His arms upon the cross: “You who follow me shall suffer for me as I have suffered for you.” WE do not deliver pain and death; WE deliver love, peaceful behaviour, and warn of violations. Beyond this we cannot enforce God’s morality; only He can do that but refuses because He gave each human the right of choice. WE of all people should honor that right in all peoples, whether they threaten our lives or accept us as we accept them.

The only thing about today’s memorial that I found disturbing was the chaplain’s prayer, rather how he closed it. Jesus said, “Whatsoever ye ask in my name, the Father will do.” The prayer was to “God Almighty” and was a request for strength, courage and the ability to move one: all wonderful, much needed petitions of the Father. However, he closed the prayer with simply “Amen,” making no request in Christ’s name.

That saddened me greatly; thus I prayed for all the same things for the living and dead soldiers, their families and friends, in Christ’s holy name. Please do the same, each and every one of you; as I pray that all of you will be as Christ and offer your hand in friendship to all our neighbors, no matter what they believe. Remember who and what you are and for whom you stand; then study below God’s Word about prayers.


Are ALL Prayers Heard?
©copyright 1988 annotations by Bonita M Quesinberry 

Does God hear every prayer uttered by every person in the world? Don’t be so quick to say ‘yes;’ for God’s short answer is NO. He neither hears nor responds to prayers spoken by the wicked and filthy, they who demonstrate unbelief despite, perhaps, expressing belief or not; albeit, He does give to them their hearts desires: as scripture states, “God is kind even to the wicked while they are here.” Other verses clarify: this world is all they will ever have; thus, when they die a physical death, there will be only a second death to come: death of their spiritual being that gave life to their flesh garment.

God’s examples of unbelief are disobedience and a heartfelt desire and/or request for things of this world. Jesus did not pray for such things and He was wholly obedient, which John 17:9-10 validates. II Chronicles 7:14 states: “IF His people turn from their wicked ways, then God will hear.” Obviously, hearing and replying to prayer depends on demonstrated BELIEF by being obedient and for WHAT it is we are asking.

On the other hand, Truth doers, who demonstrate belief and whom God does hear, are instructed to pray for the wicked and filthy. One might ask, however, who are non-believers and believers? God’s words from the Authorized King James Version Bible, following below, explain both. Unbelief is demonstrated in various ways, some not as readily detectible as others. A prior TSaS article defines, “Who Are True Believers.”

Tales abound about various people having uttered a prayer similar to: “God, if you really exist, then…” and they state what it is they want, then declare He answered their plea. Yet, the very wording of their opening statement to God proclaims disbelief of His existence. Scripture validates: “God does not hear prayers of the wicked and filthy.” Thus, it is a certainty He does not hear those who doubt His very existence.

Some might point to Apostle Thomas Didymus—remember “Doubting Thomas?” (John 20:24-29) It is important to note: 1. Thomas did not question God’s existence; and 2. He did not deny Jesus was exactly who He claimed to be. What Thomas doubted was Christ’s resurrection from the dead, nothing more. Thus, Thomas demonstrated “O, ye of little faith,” but he did not at all lack belief.

There are those who claim belief and do seem to credit God with all they have, yet remain unbelievers in His eyes. Not to preclude average to middle income people, most highly visible among these unbelievers are celebrities, including those of the pulpit: all of whom state God has blessed them with their greatest desires—fame, fortune, success and a world who loves them. Listen to what to celebrities say at various televised award ceremonies. Listen to what is said on TBN and DayStar.

The latter have firmly entrenched the world into what are supposed to be God’s spiritual ministries absent of fame and fortune. Not only them but also denominations around our planet do the same. So, one might say, “We’ve only to call upon the name of the Lord” (Romans 10:13). There is more to it than one singular verse out of God’s Written Word. If no more than calling upon the Lord were all it takes to be saved, then why were we warned that even the demons profess the Lord: yet they will be destroyed.

Thus, calling upon the Lord is but one part of the whole; and, it is only the whole that results in life everlasting. Taking one verse, while excluding all other relevant text, is exactly what corporate Christendom does to justify the lies they teach and the wayward ways in which they live: “smooth words,” and their followers love it so. The road to utter destruction is paved with lies, innuendos and omissions.

Therefore, prayers being heard and granting hearts desires are two entirely separate issues as well as events. Every human on this planet is granted the true desire of his or her heart: which isn’t to say his or her prayers are heard, too. The wicked and filthy desire things of this world and they have them, whatever those might be: fame, fortune, power, success at whatever level or even lack of success, drugs, alcohol—the list goes on. To have or not to have things of this world has little to do with determining belief but everything to do with determining the heart’s desire. If the desire isn’t spiritual, then the person isn’t God’s child.

God’s people desire spiritual things, thus even their prayers are heard. In summary, it would behoove us all to be very careful about what we ask of God: worldly or spiritual. Nevertheless, read what God has to say about whom He hears and to whom He turns a deaf ear. * * * * *

I Samuel 8:18—Ye shall cry out in that day because of your king which ye shall have chosen you; and the Lord will not hear you in that day.

II Chronicles 7:14—IF MY PEOPLE, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and TURN FROM THEIR WICKED WAYS; THEN WILL I HEAR from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

Job 35:12-13—There they cry, but none giveth answer, because of the pride of evil men. Surely God will not hear vanity, neither will the Almighty regard.

Psalm 17:1—Hear the right, O Lord, attend unto my cry, give ear unto my prayer that goeth not out of feigned lips.

Psalm 109:2~,3-7—The mouth of the wicked and the mouth of the deceitful are opened against me: they have spoken against me with a lying tongue. They compassed me about also with words of hatred; and fought against me without a cause. For my love they are my adversaries: but I give myself unto prayer. And they have rewarded me evil for good, and hatred for my love. Set thou a wicked man over him: and let Satan stand at his right hand. When he shall be judged, let him be condemned: and let his prayer become sin.

Psalm 145:17-20—The Lord is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. The Lord is nigh unto [near] all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. The Lord preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy.

* * * * * Note the line stating God hears ONLY those who call upon Him in TRUTH. Truth is one piece of God’s armor, which happens to be His Law: as confirmed in Psalm 119:142,151. The requirement of obeying same, in order to enter Yeshua’s kingdom, is established in Isaiah 26:2 as well as three times in The Revelation.  * * * * *

Proverbs 15:8-9—The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the Lord: but the prayer of the upright is his delight. The way of the wicked is an abomination unto the Lord: but he loveth him that followeth after righteousness.

Proverbs 21:12-13—The righteous man wisely considereth the house of the wicked: but God overthroweth the wicked for their wickedness. Whoso stoppeth his ears at the cry of the poor, he also shall cry himself, but shall not be heard.

Proverbs 28:9—He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer shall be abomination.

Isaiah 1:15—And when ye [who have committed abominations before the Lord] spread forth your hands, I will hide mine eyes from you: yea, when ye make many prayers, I will not hear: your hands are full of blood.

Isaiah 59:1-4—Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear: but your iniquities [sins] have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear. For your hands are defiled with blood, and your fingers with iniquity; your lips have spoken lies, your tongue hath muttered perverseness. None calleth for justice, nor any pleadeth for truth: they trust in vanity, and speak lies; they conceive mischief, and bring forth iniquity.

Zechariah 7:11-13—They refused to hearken, and pulled away the shoulder, and stopped their ears, that they should not hear. Yea, they made their hearts as an adamant stone, lest they should hear the Law, and the words which the Lord of hosts hath sent in his spirit by the former prophets: therefore came a great wrath from the Lord of hosts. Therefore it is come to pass, that as [all the people of the land] cried, and they would not hear; so they cried, and I would not hear, saith the Lord of hosts:

Matthew 5:44~,45—I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute; that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Luke 18:10-14—Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess. And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God merciful to me a sinner. I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased [humiliated]; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted [made glorious].

John 9:31—We know that God heareth not sinners: but if any be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.

John 17:8~,9-10—They have believed that thou didst send me. I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them which thou hast given me; for they are thine. And all mine are thine, and thine are mine; and I am glorified in them.

Romans 2:12-13—For as many as have sinned without law shall also perish without law: and as many as have sinned in the law shall be judged by the law; for not the hearers of the law are just before God, but the doers of the law shall be justified. {refer back to Luke 18:10-14}

Romans 10:10-13,17—For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

I Peter 3:7—Ye husbands, dwell with [your wife] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

I John 5:16—If any man see his brother sin a sin which is not unto death, he shall ask [for his brother], and [God] shall give him life for them that sin not unto death. There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it.

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EVIDENCE: those who CONSISTENTLY VIOLATE even one of GOD’S TEN COMMANDMENTS, his or her PRAYERS ARE NOT HEARD. But, what if he or she is wholly obedient yet seems to receive no answer? Believers’ prayers always are heard. God’s answer might be a resounding NO, or it might be LATER. It is crucial to remember: our Lord does everything in His children’s best interest or the best interest of a person on whose behalf we pray and in perfect timing. What our little finite brain might decide is best, actually could be the worst thing in the end of a matter: especially if it puts another’s and/or our salvation at risk. Additionally, we might be asking in error: which is to ask for things of this world, including someone’s life.

Bear in mind: Apostle James is speaking only to Christ’s church, not the world at large, wherein c.4 v.1-4 and v.6 state: “From whence come wars and fightings among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is an enemy of God. But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.”

James goes on to say in v.7-10: “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh [near] to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double-minded. Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”

What is it to be double-minded? It is to think we can have one foot in the world and the other in righteousness yet maintain assurance of salvation. God says we either live in the world, thus not His, or we are not of this world and belong to Him. We cannot have both, which is to say “maybe” to God instead of a definitive “yes or no.” Demonstrating a “maybe” to God is to be “lukewarm:” as noted in Revelation 3:15-17. This world, as we know it, is temporary. What God offers is permanent. Therefore and whether consciously or unconsciously, people make a solid decision for one or the other. As far as God is concerned, there is no middle road.

Is God contradicting Himself when, on the one hand, He says to rejoice in the Lord and find His Law a delight; yet on the other hand, He says to mourn and weep? No, He is not contradictory. To mourn and weep is to do so over how utterly we have sinned against our Creator, forthrightly admitting our sins thus humbling ourselves before Him in full repentence and utter obedience. Also, we are to mourn and weep over the encompassing wickedness in this world.

Only then can we rejoice in the Lord and find His Law a delight: obeying not because we “have” to, which is legalism, but rather because in humility and love we “want” to obey. “His law is not grievous.” It is not terrible or burdensome, not impossible to follow, as the world would have us believe.

Nevertheless, without the love of God in our hearts, we never will obey totally: thus, marked UNBELIEVER. We can claim belief all day and even find others who will say we do believe, but this doesn’t mean God seals us as a believer. Are your prayers being heard? If not and you wish to be heard, then examine: 1) your requests—are they worldly or spiritual—and, 2) scrutinize where you might be falling short of Adonai’s Statutes of Life; submit and obey in humility…but, ONLY IF you truly love our Father more than you love the world and its things and its people.

As Jesus said, “If you love the world and if you love mother, father, brother, sister, even friends, and your life more than me; then you are not worthy of me. You are not worthy of the kingdom.”

——Watch the clouds between mid-October to mid-November henceforth until no later than 2011. Hebrews indicates Jesus will not be late. If not fully converted now, time is your enemy; total conversion must be instant, this day, TODAY: do not delay. Pray unceasing! Be watchful; stand fast even to death. WE HAVE GOD’S POWER. KEEP WALKING and TALKING, even when it seems useless: you might snatch one lost, lukewarm sheep from the flames. Saith the Lord, “Ye lukewarm await consuming fire.”

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Much Love in Christ, Sister BonnieQ

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Cinderella Syndrome

Cinderella Syndrome

©copyright 2007 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.

Cinderella Syndrome? Is this clinical terminology? It is and counselors use it as a diagnostic term to describe angry, out of control children who live with one parent and a stepparent or even abusive parents; kids who automatically assume that all stepparents and abusive parents are evil thus act out their confusion, sense of abandonment and rage. Several years ago, this issue was covered in a lesson about parenting; however, this syndrome also impacts marriages much more than people realize.

“The French Cendrillon,” penned by Charles Perrault in the 1690s, is believed to be the original “Cinderella;” of this latter, similar tales of wicked stepmothers and prince charming saving an abused princess are found in nearly all cultures. However, the originals were not written as children’s fairytales; they were novel length works intended for adults, which explains negatives in “Cinderella” that destructively impact children.

Tales such as “Cinderella” and “Sleeping Beauty” create unrealistic, and often unfair, expectations of stepparents or abusive parents and future marriage partners. Many, but not all, children who grew up on these classic fairytales automatically assume stepparents are wicked and immediately will set out to derail that vile person who dared to disrupt their life: girls dreamed of being swept away by a strong Prince Charming, who saves their lives, loves them unconditionally, and gives them everything they want; and, our boys expect to become mesmerized by a beautiful, sweet, loving Princess, to whom they willingly would give the world on a silver platter. Both believe they will be saved from a wicked stepparent, or abusive parents, then go on to live happily ever after. In their world of make believe, life is sweet smelling roses void of thorns.

It’s irrelevant to have taught that these are just fairytales, not real life; especially if parental role models are less than examples of a godly union. A child is impacted at such a young age that he or she does not understand the explanation; and, if it be they also have a stepparent or later gain one or have an abusive parent, fairytales become all that much more of a realistic hope to him or her: an abusive stepparent or poor parental example transfers to a prince or princess with marriage being this child’s escape to perfect love, one that usually will fail miserably. When reality does not match the fairytale outcome, divorce courts open their doors and slam down a gavel with ominous finality on what only seems to have changed from wicked stepparents or vile parents to evil spouses.

Today, there are a number of excuses given courts of law to justify the abominable action of divorce: infidelity, abuse, abandonment, misrepresentation, going in different directions, no longer on the same emotional level, no longer “in love;” though the most popular excuse cited in legal petitions is irreconcilable differences: sounds better and neither party suffers public blame.

The point of divorcing: “I made a mistake. He isn’t my prince charming” or “she isn’t my beautiful princess;” albeit, the more popular phrase is, he or she “isn’t my soul mate.” And, they just KNOW that their soul mate is still out there somewhere patiently waiting for them; thus, adulterous remarriage becomes the solution.

Notice the word “excuses” above; for God considers not one of those excuses to be a valid reason for divorce. Although, He does allow a man to divorce, IF and only if his wife has committed adultery, but He does not allow a woman to divorce her husband for any reason. Jesus taught forgiveness; so even in cases of adultery, divorce is not God’s solution for troubled marriages.

It is sad that people are astounded when a couple reports having been married 40 or 50 years or, as the Quesinberry grandparents, married for 72 years when grandfather died at age 96. People instantly ask, “What’s your secret to staying married so long?” The Quesinberry’s would have said that, despite grandfather’s early infidelity and even abuse, God’s plan for marriage was the reason for longevity.

This Cinderella Syndrome defines marriage as it being all about “me, myself, and I:” what marriage can do for “me,” what the spouse can do for “me,” about how much the spouse loves “me.” To enter a marriage with such self-serving expectations is a sure ticket to divorce courts. On the other hand, God directs us to look outside self; therefore, marriage is supposed to be about loving the spouse and doing all we can for our spouse. It should not be about what the spouse can do for self.

Marriage also is about reflecting a oneness that mirrors our oneness with God; thus, marriage is all about pleasing God by our obedience to His earthly marriage rules. After all, marriage applies in this lifetime only; for in the eternal life there will be no one given in marriage. Our total focus then, as genderless spirit beings, will be our awesome Father and His Christ, our Lord and Saviour who is our future husband.

We, as parents, need to be aware of how fairytales might impact our children’s future behaviour; therefore, we need to be very cognizant of any negatives such stories might be forming in our kids’ minds. If negatives are there, then don’t allow those fairytales for young, impressionable children. Let them read them as adults who, hopefully, have been thoroughly taught God’s way by the time they read those fables.

And, of course, we need to be setting the very best possible examples for our children to follow. God’s Word provides everything we need to be great husbands and wives from the get go, to assure marital longevity void of becoming a national statistic. Being godly husbands and wives results in becoming the best parents. God’s Word tells each spouse what He expects of him and her, explains their respective duties designed for each— providing no room for focusing on whether or not the other spouse is doing what he or she should be doing— and God explains how to parent the children He loans to us.

The single biggest mistake couples make is to believe they must please their spouse or lose him or her. We never can fully please another human, not as long as we are in these finite bodies and Satan roams around looking for victims to devour with lies. But without any doubt, we can please God: we’ve only to follow His rules for husbands and wives, which directs us to focus on being the best self can be without any regard for what the other spouse is doing or not doing.

As with all things concerning our heavenly Father, we are judged solely on self-behaviour; so, in reality, it does not matter what our husband or wife is doing right or wrong. In fact, if we are committed and work at being a godly person, spouse and parent, odds are in our favor that, eventually, the noncompliant spouse will change his or her behaviour simply by what they see in us. The Word charges, “Who are you to say your mate will never change?” Refer to “Discipline Self.”

Wives and mothers, are you teaching your daughters how to be godly women and showing your sons how to recognize a godly woman so that, when it is time, he will make a wise choice in his choice of mate; your children seeing it in your behaviour and reinforced by your teaching of God’s Word on the topic? Husbands and fathers, are you raising your sons to be godly men and showing your daughters how to recognize a godly man so they will make a wise choice in husbands; showing them by your behaviour and instructing them according to God’s Word on the subject?

Every answer we need to this temporary life’s many issues is found only in God’s Word. So, don’t make the mistake of looking for happiness to come from another human, where it never will be found. God told us where to find happiness, “Happy is the person who obeys God’s Law.” At best, other people can only enhance our happiness, though we cannot always count on them to do so; but they never can take happiness away from us when God is the One to have given it.

Below cited are all relevant scripture references; however, for a clear understanding, it is most helpful to read them gathered into one place; as in the AKJV Topical Bible “Truth Gathering,” the only Topical Bible available that includes ALL relevant scriptures quoted verbatim. Please note that references below are taken from the Authorized King James Version Bible; other versions often differ due to hazardous omissions, deletions and erroneous definitions that depart from original language intent:

HUSBANDS: Genesis 2:22-24; 3:17-19; Exodus 22:19; Leviticus 18:22-23; 20:10,15-16; 21:7; Deuteronomy 22:5; 24:5; 27:20-23; Proverbs 18:22; 21:9,19; 22:24-26,29; 24:1-7,9; 25:23-24,28; 27:12; 28:12-14; 29:22-23; 31:3-6; Ecclesiastes 7:1-6,8-9; 9:9-10; 11:8-10; I Corinthians 7:1-16, 25-29,32-33; 11:3-12; 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:25-33; I Timothy 2:8; 3:2-5; Titus 2:2,6-8,11-15; I Peter 3:7-13

WIVES: Genesis 3:16; Deuteronomy 22:5; Esther 1:20,22; Proverbs 19:13-15; 27:15-16; 31:10-31; Ecclesiastes 7:26,28; I Corinthians 7:2-5; 7:10-11,13-17,34, 39-40; 11:3,8-9,11-12; II Corinthians 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:22-24; I Timothy 2:8-15; 5:14-15; Titus 2:2-5; I Peter 3:1-6

PARENTING: Proverbs 13:23-25; 19:18,26-27; 20:11,20,29-30; 22:6,15; 23:24-26; 26:3-5; 28:7,9,24; 29:3,15,17-18; Ecclesiastes 4:13-14; 11:10; Matthew 15:4-6,~7; 19:19; Mark 7:10-13,19; Luke 18:20; Ephesians 6:1-4; Colossians 3:20-21

DIVORCE: Genesis 2:22-24; Leviticus 21:7-14; 22:13; 24:1-4; Jeremiah 3:1; Proverbs 6:32; 30:18-20,23; Ezekiel 16:32,35,38,43-44,~45; 33:15; Hosea 2:2-3,5~,6-9; 4:~1~l,2,3; Matthew 5:31-32; 19:3-9; Mark 10:10-12; Luke 16:18; John 4:6-18; 8:3-5,7,9-11; Romans 7:2-3; I Corinthians 6:13-15,18-20; 7:1-4,10-16,39-40; 11:3,7-9; 14:34; Ephesians 5:22-24,33; Colossians 3:18; I Timothy 2:9-15; 5:11-12; Titus 2:3-5,11-12; Hebrews 13:4,17; James 4:4; I Peter 3:1-2; II Peter 3:1-2,17; Luke 22:40,46; Matthew 5:48; I Thessalonians 5:22; Isaiah 32:9-12 — keep in mind Ecclesiastes 7:26 and James 4:8 as well as consider Proverbs 31:10-28


Resource: “Truth Gathering,” chapters 4, 5, and 17; Husbands and Wives, Parenting, and Divorce, respectively; pages 139-148, 309-318, respectively; “Truth Gathering” ©copyright 1998, an exhaustive AKJV Topical Bible of all critical-to-salvation subjects, fully annotated for definition and comprehension. Book Review: “Every Christian should have this topical Bible as a study companion to their Bible.” Available by order from any local or online bookstore: offers lowest pricing.  

~~ end Sabbath Lesson 03/10/07

10 March 2007 Posted by | Bible, Bible Related Articles, Bible Study, Christ, Christian, Christianity, Church, Escatology, Evil, Fathers, God, Homemaking, Husbands, Jehovah, Jesus, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Religion, Self Help, Spiritual, Spiritual Study, Truth, Wives | 8 Comments

World Needs More Self-Control


©copyright 2007 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.


To all who love the Lord: “God shows us our erroneous works amid humanity and our exceeding sins against Him. He opens our ears to discipline and commands that we turn from iniquity. If we disobey, then we will perish according to the sword of His Word, thus die without ever having gained God’s knowledge” (Job 36:9-10,12). God says much about learning to exercise self-discipline, self-control of our thoughts and actions— an obligatory feature sorely lacking in far too many professed Christians today.


First, review the definitions of this lesson’s key words, followed with God’s Word on this vital component to becoming one chosen for heaven and Christ’s kingdom thereafter:


DISCIPLINE: n. 2. training that develops self-control, character, or orderliness and efficiency. 3. the result of such training; self control; orderly conduct. 4. acceptance of or submission to authority and control. 5. a system of rules or methods, as for the conduct of members of a monastic order. 6. treatment that corrects or punishes. v.t. [Disciplined, Disciplining], 1. to subject to discipline; train; control. 2. to punish. –SYN. see punish. —Webster’s New World Dictionary, Collegiate Edition

PUNISH: v.t. 1. cause (a person) to undergo pain, loss, or suffering for a crime or wrongdoing. 2. impose a penalty on a wrongdoer for an offense. [‘discipline’ suggests punishment intended to control or establish habits of self-control; ‘correct’ suggests punishment for the purpose of overcoming faults; ‘chasten’ is to punish in order to correct or make better, to restrain from excess, subdue; and is used especially in a theological sense (“God chastens and hastens His will to be made known” [Webster’s quote, possibly paraphrased from Isaiah 16:5; nevertheless, this is a  logic found  throughout the Bible]). —Webster’s New World Dictionary, Collegiate Edition


Revelation 3:19 finds Father telling us that He reprimands and corrects those whom He loves; therefore, we should be adamantly determined to admit, then cease doing any and all sins He points out to us while growing up into His righteousness. I Corinthians 11:32 and Hebrews 12:6 reassures us that, when Father corrects us, it IS because He loves us; it is meant to protect us from being condemned with the world when Christ brings God’s sentencing phase of judgment.


The above verses refer to the fact that infant Christians might continue in sin unaware, due to not knowing or understanding the weightier matters of His Law; which Christ mentioned those ‘weightier matters’ as needing to be taught. Still, God will show us where and how we err, whether it be through His Written Word or by one of His teachers; after which He expects us to repent.


This is a growth process referred to scripturally as beginning with milk of salvation’s basics, when we first become a Christian, then maturing to the solid food of weightier matters. Thus, it is better to be corrected and/or punished now than to fall dead at the brightness of Christ’s coming; as will the wicked and filthy who continue to refuse sound doctrine when given to them, thus they also reject God’s correcting rod.


Right about now, there likely are many shouting, “Christ died for ALL of our sins— past, present and future— therefore we are not corrected or punished after accepting Jesus. Jesus did that for us on the cross!” There is a tremendous difference between correcting punishment and eternal deadly punishment. Romans 3:25 and Isaiah 53:5 clearly confirm that our Messiah died for ONLY our ‘past’ sins; those we had committed prior to accepting Christ as both God’s Son and our Saviour.


Therefore, God made provision for infant Christian’s who might continue in sin unaware; which is virtually every person who initially comes to the Lord. There is not one denomination teaching God’s Law, not as a necessary component to proving our love for the Lord and by which to learn and employ righteousness, muchless teaching the Law’s weightier matters. Thus, each infant should hope and pray for anointed, taught-by-no-man, teachers who have matured to solid food and from whom we can learn how to become pure before the Lord; that we might be presented as virgins to our perfect Groom.  


How does God show us our works and sins? II Samuel 7:14-15 renders evidence using King David. “If you commit iniquity, I will punish you with the rod of men and with the stripes of the children of men: but my mercy shall not depart away from you.” Jeremiah 2:19 clarifies the rod and stripes, “Your own wickedness shall correct you and your backslidings shall accuse you when you wander and play the harlot.” Play the harlot? If, after claiming to love the Lord, thus supposedly becoming one with Him, then we thereafter violate God’s Law, in effect we have committed adultery against Him: thus, acting like a harlot.


Clearly, if we have been taught God’s Law of Righteousness, together with many passages teaching its weightier matters, and we nevertheless turn to unrighteous behaviour, our own sins should cause us to feel guilt and shame; thus, ultimately God punishes us through mankind, whether it be that another person brings adversity upon us and/or the laws of the land punish us.


Psalm 39:11 continues, “When God rebukes a man, it corrects his iniquity, and God makes his beauty to consume away like a moth.” Jeremiah 30:11, “I will correct you according to MY judgments and will not leave you unpunished; though I will not make a full end of you.” As Proverbs 22:15 points out, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive foolishness from him.”


EXAMPLES: Say a Christian adult is not a good steward of money God has made available for him or her to earn and live on; this person will quickly become debt-ridden, perhaps lose a home or car or more. His or her own sin should correct them, if they truly love God and Christ, for such love will cause them to seek a way to overcome irresponsible behaviour. We are, after all, taught to be not only good stewards of what God gives us but to also be good stewards of our employer’s business.


God’s Commandment says, “Thou shalt not steal.” Even if it is something as simple as a pen from work that one has taken or a pen not returned to a cashier, it IS a violation of God’s Law. If this person is a Christian, they should become riddled with guilt thus fear retribution. AND, it just might be that God will send the “rod of man,” which could be someone who breaks into this Christian’s home and steals all of their valuables— in exchange for a ninety-nine cents pen? The punishment, however, could be one of a variety of events, such as the loss of one’s job; not just the example given here.


While drinking alcohol is not a sin in itself, God says the drunkard shall not enter heaven’s gates. If we look at the life of a person currently consumed by addictions— which does violate God’s admonition of moderation but most notable is that addictions cause the addicted to violate one or more of God’s Ten Precepts— we find all manner of afflictions in such a person’s life and body: loss of livelihood, loss of home and health, loss of spouse and family and friends; the addiction might even cause a car wreck that kills another or him or her to steal in order to support his or her addition: the addicted will go to jail.  


Christ stated that it will be harder for a rich man to enter the gates of heaven than for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle. If a wealthy person gained their riches through illicit and/or unethical means, or say they do not care for those less fortunate than themselves and/or they treat their employees poorly, the rich might ultimately lose all they have. According to prophecy, they will lose everything, IF they do not repent of unrighteous ways: Christ’s directive was “sell all you have and give it to the poor, then follow in My footsteps.” ~~end of examples, yet there are many, many more.


If we think back over our lives, look at sins we’ve committed, then review various adversities that followed our sins, it should be clear how God brings to our attention our erroneous works amid humanity and our sins against God and man. Once reviewed with brutal honesty, we then must make a choice.


God wants us to review our sins according to what God calls sin, confess each violation, then repent and thereafter sin no more. We should understand, however, that not all adversities and afflictions are necessarily for punishment to better us; rather, some events might occur to test of our faith in God, believe He will see us through, such as Job: review a previous lesson entitled “Is Healing of a Christian’s Body a Given,” which includes a treatise of Paul’s “thorn in the side,” among other key Bible figures.



Psalm 19:18,20-21 encourages us to “punish our children while there is hope for their salvation and not to despair over their crying when corrected. We are urged to hear this counsel and to receive this instruction, so we may be wise in our latter years; for, in the end, only the Lord’s counsel will stand.” God doesn’t speak to hear Himself heard; nay, He accepts and uses His own counsel when it comes to His children: chastising and correcting and, if necessary, even punishing us for wrong doings until we change. Notice “until” we change; thus, we should be with our children.


Daniel 10:12 points out that in disciplining ourselves before the Lord— which is to humbly confess our sins, repent, repay to those whom we have offended, as required, and to request His mercy upon us: reminiscent of the tax collector’s behaviour as he stood in the Holy Temple along with one of the Pharisees in Luke 18:9-14 — we are assured that our words are heard by God and He will send the Holy Spirit to us as we need Him. II Corinthians 6:2 confirms God saying, “I will hear you at the appropriate time, and in the day of salvation I will help you. Behold, now is the time and now is the day of salvation.”


II Corinthians 6:9 and Hebrews 12:10 verify that God does chasten His children but we are not killed by His punishment; rather, we are corrected to make us better, more righteous. Our Father does this for our profit that we might share in His holiness. The Lord is clear that, if we are not chastised, it is because we are not His son or daughter: therefore, we should rejoice in His correction; despite the fact that being punished is not a pleasant thing, rather a painful event, but it will yield the peaceful fruit of righteousness in those who are trained by God. Think on this when it comes to training and correcting our own children: as God said, “Spare the rod and ruin the child.”


Psalm 94:12 further reveals another benefit of being corrected by God, “Blessed is the person whom God chastens and teaches him from God’s Law.” Job 5:17 adds, “Happy is the man whom God corrects: therefore do not despise the Almighty’s discipline.”


Concerning God’s correction, Jeremiah 31:18 should urge us to take on Ephraim’s attitude: “The Lord has chastised me like taking a whip to a bull unaccustomed to a yoke; He has turned me and I shall be turned: for God is the Lord my God.” We should want God to correct us, for we might not recognize when we are offending His righteousness, despite the fact one of His prophets may have warned us; we should want Him to turn us away from sin, from all things that He finds abhorrent. If we don’t want God’s discipline and correction, then we do not love God and Christ; for only in perfect love do we truly wish to please our Father Creator and Lord Saviour, in perfect love begging to be shown our flaws and wayward behaviours so we might change them.


Warnings: indeed, God does warn us before punishing us. In properly training errant children, the first thing a parent should do is to adamantly state to the child what is acceptable behaviour followed by citing what punishment can be expected if he or she disobeys the rules. Therefore, the teaching serves as also a warning; punishment to come thereafter, if the child rebels the first time against those lessons: never should parents withhold discipline by allowing the child to commit the offense numerous times. To withhold is to teach a child that the parent is a liar and it becomes a game the kid uses against such parents while they teach the child to lie. “Spare the rod, ruin the child.” A first offense, following appropriate teaching, should result in punishment.


Thus it is that God sends His prophets to warn us when we err from a lack of knowledge; in other words, His prophet explains what God expects of us and what we can expect if we continue to disobey God. To continue in disobedience then cause God to punish us and continue to punish us in various ways UNTIL we repent of the error in our ways OR it becomes too late for repentence; which ever comes first. However, becoming too late is quickly approaching. Nevertheless, God performed in this manner throughout the ancient days and still does so today. God does not change and neither has His requirements of those He calls sons and daughters.


II Timothy 3:16-17 tells us how we can go about teaching and correcting self: “ALL scripture is given by inspiration of God, and it is profitable for doctrine, for criticism, for correction, and for instruction in righteousness; so that a person of God may become perfect, completely prepared to do all good works.” Therefore, Romans 15:14 declares that, by learning and using God’s Word, we become filled with goodness and knowledge:  thus able to teach, guide, and warn one another.


I Thessalonians 5:12-15 urges us to recognize and acknowledge those who do work among us as teachers, to treat them with respect and to love them for the work they do for our sake. And, we are further urged that there be peace among our brethren.


God’s teachers, or prophets as it were, are instructed to: warn any brethren that is disobedient; to comfort those who are indecisive; to support the weak in health; and, to be patient toward all of mankind, both good and bad. II Thessalonians 3:14-15 further instructs that, if a brother or sister disobeys God’s Word, the teacher is to not keep company with him or her as a way of shaming the brother or sister. Yet, the teacher is not to consider him or her an enemy; rather, warn him or her as a brother or sister.


However, in warning brothers and sisters in Christ, teachers also are directed to warn a brother or sister no more than twice; for if he or she does not amend his or her ways in accordance with the first or second warning; then, as Titus 3:10-11 advises, if this brother or sister continues in sin after being warned up to twice, it is because his or her mind is perverted.


No matter how many ways we might phrase God’s Truth, God’s teachers cannot convert a person with a perverted mind; thus after the second admonition, we are to reject this person as a brother or sister. It is in cases such as this that we must remind self that only “God chooses whom He will to follow His Son.” We cannot and must not ever attempt to make God’s choices: for He knows the heart of this person, which we cannot know. To continue beyond a second warning is to assume the role of God: idolatry the crime.


The only thing we can come to know about a person to whom we witness is whether or not his or her mind is perverted. Upon determining perversion, we simply must reject and walk away, based on the added fact that not all who appear to be sheep are truly sheep: many are wolves, or Satan’s goats as it were, masquerading in sheep’s clothing.


We should want to learn by instruction rather than by God’s correction; the former is painless while the latter can be very painful. Remember, as a child, Mom or Dad had to spank you for misbehaving? It hurt, whereas you would have suffered no pain if you had chosen to follow instructions. The same methods apply to our Almighty Father, except as an infinite Spirit being He applies discipline in a far different and much greater way. 

We also should learn by Israel’s example, the things that happened to them for their disobedience against God, as stated in I Corinthians 10:11; for we are the ones upon whom the end of the world is about to occur. If we desire to be taken up to heaven when Christ arrives, then it definitely is in our best interest to be adamantly determined not to duplicate Israel’s sins against God; yet, this is precisely what man’s incorporated Christian denominations teach us to do by having changed God’s Law and incorporating into this flawed doctrine many pagan rituals and festivals. We should obey God, instead of man­­—  Acts 5:29.


The bottomline is that true Christians and teachers exercise self-control, as noted in II Timothy 3:1-9; those who lack self-control are spoken of in II Timothy 4:3-5 as not enduring sound doctrine, rather seeking teachers to satisfy their lusts of the flesh, easily turning from God’s Truth to teachers of fiction and who use very little scripture to validate their ways. God’s teachers prove their teachings by every word of God, as noted in verse 5, and they live by every word of God as an example to follow. Recall that Jesus said to follow Him and Paul followed Christ, then Paul said, “Follow me.” To follow Paul’s example is to follow Christ’s example. 

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14 quite clearly states the heart of this thing called self-discipline: “Fear God and keep His Commandments, for this is the whole duty of mankind. For God shall bring every man’s work into judgment, determining whether it is good or whether it is evil.” I Thessalonians 4:4 clearly tells us that, if we have “The Mind of Christ,” we should be able to control our own vessels, the behaviour of our own bodies and the words we speak. These admonitions are confirmed in Revelation 12:17, 14:12, and 22:14, along with the added instruction of having the faith of and in Jesus Christ.


With “The Mind of Christ,” we can control our behaviour and reject the temptation of sin each time it pops up. However, an infant Christian does not yet have Christ’s mind; which is gained through consistent growth in God’s Word. Albeit, a true infant Christian should possess perfect love within, which initially motivates obedience-by-choice that, ultimately, reaps “The Mind of Christ.” This Christian will be eager to heed the teachings and warnings of those mature in God’s Word. Be aware, however, that there is a huge difference between being mature in God’s Word— via anointing of the Holy Spirit, thus having been taught by no man— and that of having been taught in men’s seminaries to learn man’s commandments and traditions: the two are miles apart, an unfathomable distance between truth and lies, between eternal life and twice dead.


The opposite is true of those who, by rejecting God’s teachers, also do not have “The Mind of Christ:” instead, they tend to seek out teachers who say what they want to hear in support of their chosen lifestyle and who teach that man cannot become perfect; thus these continue in myriad sins while accusing others and excusing themselves in Christ’s name as well as going about persecuting the Lord’s teachers, just as the ancients did to Christ. What does the Bible say is sin? According to I John 3:4-6, sin is to transgress, violate, disobey God’s Ten Commandments, as set out by God’s own finger upon stone in Exodus 20:3-17 then given again in Deuteronomy 5:7-14,16-21. 

Those who continue in sin have neither the motivation of perfect love within, thus are riddled with fears, nor do they possess “The Mind of Christ.” Where do you stand in obedience; and, who have you chosen for teachers? Continuing in sin is to declare one’s own death sentence. Accepting godly instruction coupled with self-discipline represent the comfortable route to heaven.


How has your way been working for you; and, what does your future promise to date? If it doesn’t look good, then discipline your self to God’s way.


~~ end Sabbath Lesson 02/17/07

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Prepare and Prepare the Way

Prepare and Prepare the Way 

©copyright 2007 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.


“Prepare” and “prepare the way” are two phrases found in abundance throughout the Bible; the former given as instructions and the latter as encouragement and reassurance. “Where there is a will, there is a way.” And, we know that God’s way and His timing always are perfect; while our way is full of potholes and pitfalls and our timing leaves much to be desired.


Two of the five greatest expenders of man’s energy are fear and worry, both of which go hand in hand; for what one fears, one worries about. To experience just one hour of either of these emotions utilizes the equivalent of eight hours of hard, physical labor: hours that, instead, could have been used to find solutions to problems: worry about how bills will get paid; a place to live; present dangers in this world; our children; worry about fidelity; about losing and/or finding a job; ongoing and/or potential wars; paying taxes; worry about affording food; gas prices; what others think of us; worry about what others have done to us; salvation; earth’s coming end; worry—worry—worry. These and more cause one to become riddled with fear; and, where fear exists, perfect love does not reside.


If we use our God-given free will to choose God’s instructions as well as exercise our faith, trust as it were, that He has prepared the way for us, there is no need for fear and worry: in fact, God guarantees that, if we make these two choices among several others, we will not experience fear or worry. Review what God says about how to “prepare.” 



I Samuel 7:3 tells us to prepare our hearts for the Lord and remove all strange gods from our midst, as noted in II Chronicles 19:3; then I Chronicles 29:18 confirms that God is the One who prepares our hearts, if He is our true desire. And, by preparing our heart to seek the Lord, He states in II Chronicles 30:19 that He will pardon and purge them of sin; but, not according to the ordinance ritual of sacrifice and oblations. In other words, God purged then and Christ purges today by their holy Word, not by what we do in ritual.


Isaiah 40:3, Matthew 3:3 and 11:10 instruct that we prepare the way for the Lord, a highway as it were, for our God. While this was John the Baptist’s assignment ahead of and on behalf of Christ, it also is our instruction. In an aside, all key figures of the Old Testament are noted as having prepared their hearts to receive God: in short, they actively sought God, just as we should actively seek Him through Christ. 


By preparing our hearts to receive God and Christ, which today we prepare by sincerely accepting Christ as God’s Son, being baptized of our past sins, followed by obeying God’s Doctrine, as Jesus instructed; then Christ and the Holy Spirit come to reside as permanent residents who give us perfect hearts; which means we will be filled with God’s love and Christ’s mind: to love as truly as God loves and to think as well as behave as righteously as Christ thinks and behaves: which is to have a heart to obey God’s Precepts and do all things He requires; the works by which we are judged. Then we are fit to receive God’s wisdom, knowledge, even His mysteries and secrets.


However, until we remove from our life all things offensive to the Lord, He will not enter our lives; as confirmed in II Chronicles 12:14, which states that when people do not prepare their hearts for the Lord, they will do evil. So, it behooves us to know and understand what evil it is that God “hates with a perfect hate.” In many cases, we have made self, things we have and/or things we do, and people in our lives, as those “strange gods.” Then, we compound these sins by following denominations teaching “man’s commandments and traditions” and a vow of prosperity, thereby accepting them as our “strange gods:” Satan’s synagogues, as the Bible describes them. We have only to study God’s Ten Precepts, in fact all of His word, to understand that He hates any and all violation of His Statutes of Life, His Law of Righteousness: disobedience reaps unrighteousness and evil ways.


Proverbs 16:1-5 reveals that the desire to prepare our hearts and the desire to gain answers come only from the Lord, which validates “God chooses whom He will to follow His Son, Jesus Christ;” therefore, we are instructed to commit our works TO the Lord, then our thoughts will be established BY the Lord. Proverbs goes on to say that one of the sins God hates is pride, which is the “weightier” sin of idolatry; but, if we fear the Lord thus are obedient, by His mercy and truth this sin will be purged from our hearts, if we first acknowledge this sin in us. All sin in us is purged by God’s mercy and Truth, for by His Truth are we able to recognize sin within us and, if we choose Christ, we also choose to sin no more.


Ephesians 6:15 tells us to prepare ourselves for the gospel of peace; to receive it and, wherever we go, we go peacefully and speak peace in the Lord. This means that, no matter what or who might come up against us, we are not to fight back: as Jesus directed and demonstrated with His own life, we ARE to turn the other check as many times as it takes for that person or persons to comprehend us as a people of God and thereby a people of peace, not war. Consider that it was when Christ died that one of the guards declared Him the Son of God, not before. So it might be that, by our own death, there could be a few who then acknowledge that we spoke God’s Truth. II Chronicles 35:6 then instructs that we also prepare our brethren, which goes hand in hand with Christ’s admonition to go out into the world and teach God’s Truth, both by example and word.


Please do not misunderstand: we cannot make a nation be one of peace, for God orchestrates all wars for His specific purposes; and, wars will not end until God says they end or He ends this earth as known today. The peace Christ’s sheep bring is peace within us, which should shine before each individual encountered. No matter how loud some might scream for world peace, it will not happen; thus these are seen as fanatics who do not support their governments or troops. It is a sin to speak ill of governing leaders of any nation, including one’s own; for as God said, He sets up kings and takes down kings according to His purpose. Possibly a sin to remove before God and Christ reside in you?


Job 11:13-20 states again that we are to prepare our hearts, and if there be any sin there, we are to put it far from us and not let it dwell in either our bodies or our minds. In doing so, we will forget misery’s pain; remembering each without pain, more like water that flows away. By this preparation, we are assured that we will become secure in hope, rest in safety, and nothing or no one will cause us fear. This is further confirmed in II Timothy 2:19-26, adding that by purging self of sin, we will become a vessel of honor, sanctified and appropriate for God’s use, thus prepared for every good work.


Psalm 10:17 says the Lord hears the desire of the humble and will prepare their hearts; one cannot be humble and at the same time possess pride: for they are diametrically opposed to each other. Humility is to acknowledge that we are nothing and do nothing except by the grace of God; whereas pride is to give one’s self credit for any and all accomplishments, whether they be of the world or of the Spirit. Psalm 61:7 enlightens that a humble people will abide before God forever, for God “prepares mercy and truth to preserve them.” By Psalm 119:142, and other like scriptures, we know that Truth is defined as God’s Ten Commandments: one piece of God’s Armour we must wear, yet not one piece missing. Alas, the majority of professing Christians are missing Truth.


The final message from God is found in Amos 4:12, “Prepare to meet your God!” Here, however, the message goes out to both the righteous and wicked, inasmuch as God created all that there is; for all people will face God and He will judge their works, that they are righteous or unrighteous: the latter partially noted in Malachi 3:55 as well as Psalm 9:7-10, Proverbs 19:16,27-29, and Matthew 25:41-46.


The final message from Christ is to the righteous in John 14:2-4 and Matthew 25:34,46, saying He prepares for them a place with Him where He is in heaven with the Father, and that they will inherit a restored earthly kingdom to come thereafter; where they shall live eternal life. Hebrews 11:16 states that God has even prepared a city for those not ashamed to call Him their God: we view this city in Revelation c.21 as New Jerusalem coming down from heaven.


More over, I Corinthians 2:9-12 assures those, who have prepared their hearts for God, that the Holy Spirit reveals all these things to them; for as a mere human or one who has not prepared his or her heart to receive God and Christ, we could not and will not know by our own devises. II Timothy 3:7 reveals that man’s devises are steeped in ever studying but never coming to the knowledge of Truth; for they are mired in “man’s commandments and traditions,” therefore they do not receive God’s Holy Spirit.



In responding to the admonition to “prepare our hearts,” we find that God not only purges us of sin but He also prepares the way for us in all our works for the Lord and in our daily living needs. We are assured and reassured that we will not go without our basic needs and neither will we fall short of meeting a work that God wants us to accomplish. There are many Old Testament situations where one of the key figures was instructed to go to another place and, each time, God stated that His angel— the Holy Spirit— would prepare the way ahead of the person being instructed to go.


We have only to remember that we can do all things in God and for God, as long as we have prepared our heart to receive God, Christ and the Holy Spirit. So, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?




~~ end Sabbath Lesson of 02/10/07 



11 February 2007 Posted by | Bible, Bible Related Articles, Bible Study, Christ, Christian, Christianity, Church, Escatology, Faith, Fathers, God, Groom, Husband, Husbands, Jehovah, Jesus, Love, Mothers, Parenting, Religion, Remnant, Salvation, Self Help, Spiritual, Spiritual Study, Ten Commandments, Theology, Truth, Wives | 7 Comments

Pop Goes the Balloon ~~ of LOVE

Pop Goes the Balloon! ~~ of LOVE

©copyright 2007 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.

If we stretch a rubber band far enough, it breaks, then uselessly and painfully snaps back into our face or the face of another; or, if we put too much hot air into a balloon, it pops and shrivels to a wrinkled, useless mess of thin rubber no longer resembling its former glory, never again to smoothly float heavenward. These analogies applied to the times we live in should cause us to consider how we over use the word LOVE: abused until it now has no significant meaning. 

The word “love” is used every day to convey a tremendous number of likes and desires; none of which relate to love as God defines it: “I love . . .  my life; limousines; Armani clothes; the color purple; Leonardo D’Caprio; acting; horror movies; rock ‘n roll; Tim McGraw; to sing and dance; Mexican food; custom houses; fancy décor; diamonds; Madonna; my job; video games; money; I would love to do .  . . or love to have .  . . or love to be . . . or love to go to . . .” The list goes on and, somewhere in this unholy mix, love for spouse or child or God and Christ might be expressed on rare occasions. As Jesus said, “If you love your life and this world more than me, you are not worthy of me.” 

Love spoken, as above, seems to come from flattering lips instead of a heart reflecting God’s love IN BEHAVIOUR. If we never again spoke or wrote the word love, all would know and recognize our love, or lack thereof, by the things we do for or against self and others. God and Christ said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If we are out of control and our behaviour is not Christ-like, we do not love self or mankind. It is that simple. 

Is it any wonder our young, and even most adults, have no concept of what truly is love, would not recognize true love if it bit them? We all are or have been guilty of blowing up love’s balloon until it pops then deflates into a totally ineffectual, meaningless word. Many months ago the Holy Spirit pointed out the abuse of love’s true meaning, then directed that the findings be shared with others as a Sabbath lesson for the Lord’s Day. 

In misusing and abusing the true, heartfelt use of this word, we have conditioned our minds to accept a reduction of its meaning to nothing more than an indifferent “like” for something or someone; thus, our words and behaviour convey this flawed definition to other people’s minds as well as the minds of our children. Our subconscious brain affects and controls exhibited behaviour in all things, and it does so based on words we either think or speak or have heard: both negative and positive. 

We have blown up the concept of love until, today, it has popped into only the act of sex; and, when this wanes in a relationship, as it was meant to do as a godly form of birth control, a couple assumes they no longer love each another. So, they decide it is time to divorce then seek a new love interest; not necessarily in that order. Therefore, adultery reigns supreme in this nation, justified by Christian denominations with a variety of unjustified excuses in twisting God’s Word: “There is a way that seems right to a man but it is the way to destruction.” 

This nation is known globally for its immorality flamed by fornication and adultery. So, it comes as no surprise that the United States has the highest divorce rate than any other country. Why? Because according to Christ, in Matthew 24:12, “Sin abounds, the love of many has become cold [indifferent].” Certainly the majority are unconcerned, despite profuse professions of love, inasmuch as, Christ explained in John 5:40, “The love of God is not in you.” If the love of God is not in a person, then he or she is marked for a pit of fire and brimstone; unless he or she chooses to repent. It is this simple. 

We have only to look to God for examples demonstrating love; to begin, I John 4:16 states, “God IS love.” In fact, the entire Bible speaks of God’s loving, merciful and righteous character; love and mercy reflected in His Royal Law of Love thus His righteous and just nature reflected in His Ten Statutes of Life; of which, according to God and Christ, love and righteousness and justice also must become our own character traits. Such a personality, if you will, has nothing to do with either this world’s things or man’s wicked inventions and vile behaviours: it has everything to do with our relationship with God as well as mankind. God’s love is again cited in Romans 5:5,8; II Corinthians 13:11,14; and I John 3:16

God IS Love; however, He further defines His love in Galatians 5:22-26 as:

1. joy;

2. peace;

3. longsuffering, which is patience;


4. gentleness;


5. goodness;


6. faith;


7. meekness;


8. temperance, which is self-control. 


Additionally, we are shown love is:

1) to speak Truth, Ephesians 4:15, which Truth Psalm 119:142,151 states is God’s Ten Commandments;

2) to sacrifice our flesh and spirit being to God, Ephesians 5:2, as Christ gave Himself for us;

3) to follow after righteousness (God’s Ten Precepts), godliness and gentleness by faith and love with longsuffering patience, I Timothy 6:10; and,

4) to have no fear, for perfect love casts out fear, I John 4:18; and,


5) to obey God’s Commandments, I John 5:3-5 and II John v. 6


In addition to God’s hatred of wickedness mentioned in Zechariah 8:17 and Proverbs 8:13 plus hatred of man’s wicked inventions, things, in II Chronicles 26:15-16; Psalm 99:8; 106:29,39; Proverbs 8:12; Ecclesiastes 7:29; and Romans 1:28-32; God’s Word further cites what is NOT LOVE: 


1) love of money, I Timothy 6:10-11;

2) loving the world and its things, I John 2:15-17;

3) love by word instead of by deed, I John 3:18;

4) and a lack of love violates God’s Law, I John 3:4-11, the same Law written by God’s own finger in the beginning, cited in Exodus 20:3-17 and Deuteronomy 5:7-14,16-21


True love has no heart for disobeying even one of those righteous, liberating Statutes; but, feigned love will pick and choose which to disobey and justify same by twisting God’s Word to suit one’s lifestyle: partial obedience according to convenience and a desire to fit into society, instead of total obedience from an all-consuming love that sets us apart from society and the world. 


The vast majority of professing Christians easily say God is Love but truly do not know or understand all the ins and outs of how He exhibits love; the same exhibition we are instructed to show the world: the operative word being “show, don’t tell.” God’s Love is shown, not only in the beautiful world He created for us or the fact His Son loved us so much that He willingly died a horrible death, so our past sins might be forgiven; but, God also revealed His love when He set out exactly and plainly what He expects of us, showed us how to do it by His Son’s living example; then, God told us exactly what the rewards would be IF we obey or disobey: life or death. Now, how fair is that? FAIR! 


More importantly, God shows His love by correcting and/or punishing His children in the here and now, when or if we disobey: better now than in the end; for while the wicked and filthy are not punished now, they will be utterly destroyed in the end for their lack of repentence. 


God IS the perfect parent, one every parent should copy yet so few do. Many parents today let others raise their children— schools, television, video games, the Internet, daycare and so forth— then complain when their child goes astray. These parents fail to teach, train and guide their kids from the cradle up; worse, many parents fail to discipline when necessary. 


Such parents “show” a lack of true love for their kids, then they wonder why that son or daughter one day shouts, “You don’t love me!” of “I hate you!” When children act out, are unruly, out of control, even destructive and easily lie, it is a child’s way of demonstrating a silent scream: “Love me enough to make me do what I’m supposed to do, because I don’t know what to do!” Thus, God our Father disciplines us when we are unruly, out of control, disobedient. 


God IS Love. He loves us so much that, when He corrects and/or punishes, our tears do not deter Him; and, He advises that we not be deterred by our kids’ tears. If only parents realized that, by withholding teaching and training and guidance as well as corrective punishment, they are enabling and even encouraging worse behaviour in the child. 


A child who is out of control clearly reflects parents who are out of control: it is as if they wear on their backs, for the whole world to see and all do see, a huge red neon sign saying, “I’M OUT OF CONTROL.” People and parents such as these are often called “control freaks,” because they attempt to control petty issues in everything and everyone around them, except self and their children. In their mind, sadly, they think this means they are in control. God deems them out of control. 


We are told in II Corinthians 2:8 and 8:8,24 to confirm and to prove, which is to provide evidence of, our love for God, Christ, and our fellow humans. Then, II Corinthians 5:14 explains that, when we truly love, we do not live for ourselves; rather, we live for God, Christ, spouses and children, and for serving our brethren. In not living for self, we make better witnesses for God, better husbands and wives, and become much better parents. Bear in mind: it is NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT and A BETTER CHRISTIAN. It is a matter of life and death, theirs and ours. 


I John 2:3, 3:22-24, and 5:2-3 tell us how to confirm, prove and provide evidence of our love: obeying God’s Precepts is the evidence that reveals we both know as well as love God, Christ and mankind. Revelation 12:17, 14:12, and 22:14 then confirm that the evidence we must present, to both God and mankind, is also the keys that open to us the gates of heaven thus giving us access to God’s tree of life therein. 


Once becoming aware of how we humans have destroyed the true meaning of love, we then should choose to closely monitor when and how we use this very important word: a word so vital that it literally means everlasting life or eternal death. We should no longer use it carelessly, using it only when we MEAN love in its truest sense, LOVE by God’s definition and by His standard that we demonstrate His character. 


Otherwise, we LIKE many things and people but should not covet them. Then, when we say we love God or Christ or all people, there are no gray clouds; veils that cause others to doubt or question our sincerity; for our total behaviour should match what we say and write, IF our expression of love is in Truth. This is to love even those who sin against us: love the sinner, hate the sin. This is God’s way. 


Everyone is urged to analyze and monitor their use of this awesome word spelled L—O—V—E; a word possessed of incredible power. Choose to eliminate its use, except where love really should apply. Confirm and prove your love first, by giving evidence of it to God and Christ, according to the evidence God requires by our behaviour; and thereby, the evidence of our love for mankind. Then we can know and feel what is truly love: how it looks and acts and speaks. 


As pointed out in the Sabbath lesson of 20 January 2007, “Talk the Walk, Walk the Talk.” Let the world see, without doubt, that you mean exactly what you speak and/or write; for love speaks only Truth, God’s Truth, and acts only in Truth. 


Love is gentle and patient; love does not beat around the bush and never lies or is deceitful in any manner; love paints our kettle as black as it is, then it is up to us to clean up the mess we have made of our lives; love heals and saves our spirit being within; and most of all, love within us has the power to heal and save others whom God has called: the wayward sinner, out of control children and their enabling, out of control parents. 


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5 February 2007 Posted by | Bible, Bible Related Articles, Bible Study, Christ, Christian, Christianity, Church, Escatology, Faith, Give, Giving, God, Helpful Hints, Holy Spirit, Husband, Husbands, Jehovah, Jesus, Love, Mothers, Parenting, Religion, Self Help, Spiritual, Spiritual Study, Theology, Truth, Wives | 3 Comments

I Hate Housework!

©copyright 2005 Bonita M Quesinberry, R.C.

. . . But! I love a clean home. So, I don’t clean house: never scrub sinks, commodes and tubs or spend time looking for misplaced items. Think I have a maid? Nope. Instead, I keep a clean house. Does this sound redundant? Well, it really isn’t. Some call me Queen of Clean; but, more often, I’m accused of being obsessive-compulsive about cleaning: although, they’ve never seen me at the task. By definition and experience as a counselor, this would mean I’m cleaning round the clock what already is clean. Remember: I hate housework! Besides, with MS and a host of other maladies, I look for the easy way out.

I’m a typical Gemini with myriad interests, which I actively pursue; so, I’m not about to spend every waking moment cleaning: mother, grandmother, author, counselor, director of both TSaS and Lighthouse of Prayer; poet; personally maintain an acre of beautiful lawn and gardens; shopping, crochet; go out with friends, help others; and, amidst all these activities, my abode stays immaculate, laundry done, and even cook for myself as well as care for my ferrets— one ailing with cancer for the last two years.

Some might say, “Well, obviously, you don’t have a husband and kids to pick up after.” Well, I do have Cocoa and Princess; but, no, I don’t; albeit, for many years I certainly did— even used cloth diapers, instead of throw-aways, with three children— and nothing was any different then than it is now. My children were taught from the cradle up; and, any parent who isn’t doing this is in for a very bumpy ride and many disappointments as well as heartaches: not to mention kids who are ill prepared for adult reality.

I’d much rather spend my time doing things I love, such as playing with the kids; thus, over the years I’ve developed a number of tricks to maintaining a sparkling home with very little effort or time involved. How about approximately an hour each day, most times far less? What I offer here not only applies to our homes but our jobs as well.

The first trick is to look at chores or tasks in terms of minutes, as opposed to hours, the latter of which can be overwhelming and cause one to put off. Next, be well organized: everything has a place and everything in its place. You say you aren’t organized? Then get organized: one room at a time. It takes less time to return something to its place than it does to set it down willy-nilly, then later have to waste time just to find and put it away. Being organized aids speed; for efficiency organize closets, drawers, desks and cabinets.

Also, clean from the back of the house to the front, including vacuuming, carrying anything with you that needs to be put away, washed, or thrown away: such as an empty glass on the night table, carrying a bag to empty wastebaskets, etc. No backtracking. Dusting is the last thing done. As for husband and children: they should be a part of maintaining the home you each share— no one should be classified as the maid.

Remember I said I don’t scrub sinks, commodes/toilets or tubs/shower stalls. When finished with a sink, dry it out before hanging up the towel. Before drying self off and while still in the shower or tub, towel down the tub or shower including those shiny fixtures; which prevents corrosion and they always shine— within this couple of minutes, you already are dry: better for our skin to air dry, which prevents overly dry skin! This keeps fixtures clean thus scrubbing unnecessary. It also eliminates even the possibility of dangerous mold forming, which ultimately will get inside walls where it can’t be cleaned.

As for commodes, simply keep the brush nearby and every few days or so, when you happen to be there, swish it around the bowl then take a small bit of toilet paper to wipe of splashed moisture; which effectively cleans the seat and rim. Boys and men really don’t have to stand to do their business: besides, their aim is terribly off the mark! If they insist upon standing, then they should clean up their mess, including the spattered walls.

Another trick: do not wear shoes indoors. People really don’t mind removing their shoes inside the door when they know their feet or socks will not get black walking on filthy floors! Quickly vacuum daily as well as run a damp mop over tile floors: this also will prevent carpet and tile from wearing out, keeping it in like-new condition. I hate to waste money by having to replace something that, if it had been properly cared for, otherwise would not have needed replacing. I think of better ways to spend money. Nevertheless, if something gets spilt on the floor, immediately wipe up with a damp rag.

Every six months, dry shampoo carpets and strip tile floors of old wax. Apply a thin coat of Turtle Paste Wax for cars, buff it, then apply two coats of Johnson Clear Wax: the floors look like they have a sheet of glass over them and will remain this way with just daily damp mopping for the next six months— never any wax build up in corners, etc. This does not apply to self-shine tile or linoleum. About four hours work twice a year.

Laundry is done when a load accumulates: for those with children, it will mean doing at least one load daily— immediately folded as taken from the dryer and properly put away. Do not, under any circumstances, take out all the dry laundry and pile it somewhere else to be folded: this takes much more time and causes procrastination.

Clean up the kitchen as a meal is being prepared. This way, when dinner is finished, the only thing left to clean will be dishes on the table. Dishwasher: stack it as you go and run it only when full. Put clean dishes away each morning and begin stacking process again. Never leave dirty dishes in the sink. No dishwasher? Then wash them immediately, dry and put away. Procrastination occurs when things are left for later.

It’s okay to let a little dust accumulate. It isn’t necessary to dust furniture every day; perhaps, once a week. I have a lot of glass tables, mirrors, and fine woods: glass and mirrors clean without smearing if a cloth-wet-with-plain water is used, then dried with crumpled newspaper: Voila! No smears and no lint. A bit of Endust® or pure lemon oil on a soft cloth is great for dusting woods. I rarely clean glass and mirrors: if something gets splashed on them, immediately wipe and dry off; otherwise just dust.

And, the acre of lawn and gardens: Tuesdays I mow and Fridays mow and trim; always clean up the mower and Weedeater when done. This makes mowing not only easier and faster but it also prevents the grass from burning by cutting too much off the top AND assures that my weekend will be entirely free of work. When hand watering the gardens, I pluck up weeds as I see them. I fertilize the lawn every two months with Scott’s Weed and Feed®, and fertilize the gardens monthly with Rapid Grow Shake and Feed®.

About an hour to mow and another thirty minutes at most to trim as well as clean the equipment: so, in a week, I’ve spent perhaps 2.5 hours on the lawn. I’ll spend another couple of hours every three or four days hand watering both lawn and gardens, which allows me to pluck up weeds before they have a chance to take hold— as well as solve the world’s problems in the bargain. About 7 hours, in any given week, keeps this acre park-like. When I had just a small yard, I spent very little time keeping it beautiful.

No one need be a slave to housework— spending hours of backbreaking scrubbing and dusting and polishing— or maintaining lawns and gardens. With organization and a maintenance attitude, as opposed to a once-a-week-cleaning/mowing mentality, one can keep a beautiful house and grounds in very little time; time I am sure you’d rather spend doing other, more enjoyable things.

A week consists of 168 hours, less 42 to 56 hours for sleeping; depending on individual needs: at the least, 112 hours remain. From this total, I personally can deduct about 6 hours for the house and another 7 hours for the grounds, leaving a total of 99 hours to prepare meals, eat and do as I please. Your grounds may not be as large as mine; so, you might wind up with more free time than I do.

This equates to approximately 14.1 hours of free time each day! Okay, okay! I hear ya! You work a fulltime job of 8 hours plus commute time of, say 2 hours. You still have 4.1 hours of free time every day— that’s 1,476 hours of free time per year! More on the Lord’s Sabbath: because I do absolutely no work on that day, except in God’s Word, and neither should you.

Don’t clean house! Keep a clean house. . . THE EASY WAY! 

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13 October 2006 Posted by | Christian, Christianity, Helpful Hints, Homemaking, Housekeeping, Sabbath, Saturday, Self Help, Wives | 5 Comments

Husbands, Wives and Parents {short version}

Husbands, Wives and Parents {short version}


 excerpt Truth Gathering ©copyright 1998 Bonita M. Quesinberry, R.C., an AKJV Topical Bible exhaustive in critical-to-salvation subjects; the Topical Bible quotes each scripture, which with just part of the annotations here would equal twelve pages— more than that in the Topical Bible, which also includes a section on Divorce— but space here allows only scripture references and partial notations to reduce this post to 2 pages. Feel free to copy for ease in study. 


Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. While they did not die immediately, our punishment is lifelong; thus rules were established regarding husbands and wives as well as for parenting. What does God expect of a man who becomes an earthly husband to a woman? Let the Lord say and hear well! Scripture references are from the Authorized King James Version Bible. Readers will want to look up and read each scripture, which then are followed by notes hereinbelow:


Genesis 2:22-24; 3:17-19 


* * * * * Now that Adam and Eve had eaten of the Tree of Knowledge, there was danger that they might also eat of the Tree of Life; thus, God had no choice but to remove them from the Garden of Eden: otherwise sin would reign forever. No longer would life be perfect in a perfect setting where every need was perfectly provided. Man would have to work very hard throughout his life span just to provide necessities. And, amidst his toil there would be adversities.

This, then, is Adam’s punishment along with God’s reminder that “I created you out of dust and dust is all you are and to dust you will return.” This hard-hitting statement clearly establishes that humanity is literally nothing without the power of God, be it positive or negative. We all would do well to remember this, for God could have chosen to simply destroy, right then and there, what He had created; then started over. * * * * *

Exodus 22:19; Leviticus 20:10, 15-16; Leviticus 21:7; Deuteronomy 22:5; 24: 5; 27: 20, 21, 22, 23; Proverbs 18:22; 21: 9, 19; 22:24-26, 29; 24:1-7, 9; 25:23-24, 28; 28:12-14; 29:22-23; 31:3-6; Ecclesiastes 7:1-6, 8-9; 9:9-10; 11:8-10; I Corinthians 7:1-16; 7:25-29, 32-33 ; 11:3-12; II Corinthians 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:25-33; I Timothy 2:8; 3:2-5; Titus 2:6-8; 2:2; 2:11-15; I Peter 3:7-13



What does God expect of you? Let Him tell you and hear well! Now, ladies, don’t think Eve didn’t get her comeuppance! Indeed, she was the one deceived, not Adam. She pays in painful childbirth for her disobedience against God.

Genesis 3:16; Deuteronomy 22:5; Esther 1:20, 22; Proverbs 19:13-15; 27:15-16; 31:10-31; Ecclesiastes 7:26, 28; I Corinthians 7:2-5 ; 7:10-11; 7:13-17; 7:34, 39-40; 11:3, 8-9, 11-12;  II Corinthians 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:22-24; I Timothy 2:8-15; 5:14-15; Titus 2:2-5;  I Peter 3:1-6

If you wonder why divorce rates are so high and why so many men either do not trust or literally hate women or both; take great care in understanding the above scriptures and you will understand. Unfortunately, Eve started the defiance ball rolling and women throughout the ages have kept it rolling to, virtually, defy God on all points. Men inherently seek a virtuous woman; the mentality breathed into them by God. How many virtuous women can be found today, even among professing Christians? Change the course of history, mothers, and teach your daughters to be virtuous women; both verbally and by example.


 PARENTING: What does God expect of parents of children with which He has blessed them? Let Him tell you and hear well! Permissive parents today are silently condemning their children to utter destruction.  

Proverbs 13:23-25; 19:18, 26-27; 20:11, 20, 29-30; 22:6, 15; 23:13-14; 23:24-26; 26:3-5;  28:7, 9, 24; 29:3, 15, 17-18; Ecclesiastes 4:13-14; 11: 10; Ephesians 6:1-4 

* * * * * Parents and children receive a promise from God. To parents, the Lord assures that children raised in the ways of the Lord will not depart from it when they mature. A child might stumble a time or two while spreading their wings of independence. But parents, who raised their kids to know and fear God by obedience, will see them return to their teachings when they finally mature! To children honoring and obeying their parents in the Lord, God promises they will live long, satisfied lives as well as being a joy to their parents.

The quickest way to anger a child is with abuse and/or neglect, either physically or emotionally or in failing to thoroughly teach and guide or all three. Corporal punishment, not to the point of abuse, is used only when a child knowingly rebels against God and His Law. If error is due to ignorance, then parents have failed to properly teach. Teach, verbally and by parental behavior/example, and guide a child into holiness— using the rod only when disobedient after having received the full knowledge and understanding of God’s wisdom on any case in point. It is a certainty that a parent’s rod is less permanent than God’s punishment set aside for the wicked. A parent’s rod may well save a rebellious child’s soul from eternal damnation. * * * * *


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15 September 2006 Posted by | Bible, Bible Study, Blessings, Christian, Christianity, Faith, God, Husbands, Love, Parenting, Spiritual, Spiritual Study, Ten Commandments, Wives | 4 Comments